We recently hosted a webinar on Parenting in a Pandemic. We have included a few of the practices that we learned in the session, below.
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What is mindfulness? Mindfulness really means awareness, a gentle readiness for what is going to unfold. With all of the challenges facing parents during the pandemic, how can they be gently ready to face these challenges in a more skillful way?
We can be on autopilot when responding to the many challenges of our day. We often solve similar problems the same way, and it does not always work out as we would like. Mindfulness helps us be more present and act more skillfully in these challenging moments. Mindfulness is also about paying attention in a way that is non-judgmental and involves compassion.
Parents are encouraged to look at this time as a family retreat rather than a, “lockdown.” This may sound like too much to ask of ourselves, but consider that in our lifetime we will likely never have this opportunity in this way again. We learned that how we learn to get love in our childhood is our prototype. It is very important to understand what your prototype is. For example, some people are pleasers. The children of pleasers know that if they ask ten times for the same thing, eventually the parent will submit. Being on this family retreat provides you with the opportunity to become acutely aware of your parenting prototype. Once you are aware of it, you can develop healthy boundaries in response.
A good question to ask yourself is, “how do I want to be seen?” Hopefully, that is a conscious knowing. Children may try to manipulate parents by tears, divide-and-conquer, temper tantrums, withdrawal, etc. They are learning from you how to do that. That is a very important thing to be aware of, right now.
Without this awareness, you will not in any given moment, parent consciously. If you are aware of your pattern, you will have all of your given resources. Use these challenging moments to disrupt patterns in your relationships. This is a tremendous opportunity to practice being a compassionate adult.
For Parents - The STOP Practice
When you are feeling alarmed or stressed, use the STOP Practice to disengage. The letters in the STOP Practice stand for:
- Take a breath
For Your Children – Opening the Sense Doors
In a moment of stress, or when everyone is cranky, you can practice this simple activity with your children. Ask your child to look around the room and notice everything that is green (or another color). This is a basic mindfulness practice that can reset your and your child’s mental state and allow everyone to start out fresh.We hope that you can take some of the practices learned in today’s lesson and apply them to your everyday life. To join our newsletter list, email email@example.com.